Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

Today, I have a somewhat heavy topic to discuss.

That is, the blessing and a curse that is the anonymity of the internet.

Dun dun duuuuuunn!

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

Don’t worry, I’m also sharing this sensational recipe for curried potato noodles with kale, which will become your new go-to side dish at dinner.

You may have seen on the Inspiralized Facebook that my mother and I were interviewed for an article in the New York Times about mothers attending their daughters’ bachelorette parties.

When my mother asked me if she was invited to my bachelorette party, I was caught off guard. I wasn’t caught off guard because I would never want my mother there, I was just caught off guard because I didn’t know any other friends of mine who had their mothers there and didn’t think it was “normal.”

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

Now, let’s talk about normal for a second. What is “normal” for a bachelorette party?

Whatever normal is, I don’t care. It was my party – I’m celebrating a traditional milestone with my closest friends and sister. The bachelorette party is one of those fun times you get to be silly with your girlfriends, in anticipation of your big day. It’s basically an excuse to do something big and celebrate!

After that initial shock when my mother asked me if she was coming, my only reservation was my friends – would my friends be okay with it? I didn’t think twice about my mother being there, but I wanted to make sure it was a trip that my friends felt comfortable on, out of respect for their feelings and happiness.

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

When I asked my friends, they, in unison, said something to the effect of, “Oh my gosh, that would be SO MUCH FUN if your mom came!! She has to!”

My friends wanted my mother there, like I did, which was a relief and so I “formally” invited my mom. My sister bought her a cute “mother of the bride” t-shirt to wear while we were in Miami, which she really appreciated and loved.

While my mother stayed in a separate hotel from us (to be somewhere nicer and give us our space, if needed), she was there for every minute of the festivities – whether it was laying on the pool making us “Karen specials” (a drink we named after her – she makes a great grapefruit-vodka drink) or dancing at LIV, she was there.

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

Not only did I feel safer having my mother there (you always know your mother will have your back), but she added so much to the trip – she gave marriage advice to all of us, we talked about being women, and my mother shared some of her funny stories from first meeting Lu. She even pulled a mom move and got us a better table at LIV (none of us girls would have had the – ehem – balls to make that request.)

So, enter this New York Times article regarding said bachelorette party and my mother being there.


After reading one of the comments on the article that equated my mother to a Real Housewife who is “partying and dressing like [she's] still in [her] 20s”, I almost wanted to cry.

My mother has been married to my father for 31 years, raised 3 children and has never worn a stiletto in her life (or at least not that I’ve ever seen.)

Then, I saw someone comment, “why would anyone want to trade-in being a mother for the role of older sister? They need to grow up.”

My mother is my mother, my role model and not an older sister, she’s a best friend. If I couldn’t confide in my mother the way I do, my life wouldn’t be nearly as great as it is. I’ve had to come to my mother with terrible news, and if I wasn’t as close as I am/was with her, those situations would have turned into worse ones.

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

I don’t want my mom to just be a “figure” and someone I keep at a distance. She’s someone I can go to when I need help or if I’m hungover and want to recap the night and laugh.

Finally, I stopped reading the comments when someone said: “Now you have to include your mother, as well as all your friends, in all you do for YOUR wedding? So much for the event being about you and your soon-to-be-spouse!”

This person obviously doesn’t have a close relationship with her mother, like I do. It’s not about “having” to do anything, it’s about wanting her there and a part of the process. And as I mentioned before, having my mother there actually made it more about Lu and the union that is marriage. She told hilarious stories about Lu and gave us all tips on how to make a marriage work.

Long story short, when I saw the nasty comments rolling in, it definitely took a little away from the fun process of reliving my bachelorette through the interviews with the journalist. It took away from the day we had when a photographer came to my apartment to capture a sweet moment between us for the article and then we took a little stroll through my neighborhood and had lunch.

Curried Potato Noodles with Kale

It got me thinking about these poor people (especially teenagers) on social media who are struggling with much bigger issues than this, such as coming out about sexuality or struggling with mental illnesses or something like obesity. They’re getting taunted to the point of considering suicide.

I know I have to grow a thicker skin, but at the same time, do I? Why have we accepted that Internet bullying is “normal”? Why does it have to happen? Why are people so nasty (I personally have never and would never comment anything negative on someone’s page if I knew it would remotely offend them)? Why do people think saying something nasty will add value?

Definitely to each their own, and I know that I chose a career where I’m putting myself out there and should expect commentary, but at the end of the day, treat others as you would like to be treated.

My mother taught me that.

Nutritional Information & Recipe

Weight Watchers SmartPoints*: 4 points


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Curried Potato Noodles with Kale
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Serves: 4
  • 1.5 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 garlic clove, minced
  • 1 shallot, minced
  • 1 large russet potato (or 2 medium red potatoes), Blade C, noodles trimmed
  • 2 cups diced kale, stems removed
  • For the seasoning:
  • 1 tablespoon vegetable broth
  • 1 teaspoon country Dijon mustard
  • 1 teaspoon curry powder
  • ¼ teaspoon cayenne powder
  • ¼ teaspoon turmeric
  • ¼ teaspoon cumin powder
  • salt and pepper, to taste
  1. In a small mixing bowl, add in all of the ingredients for the curry seasoning. Whisk together and set aside.
  2. Place a large skillet over medium heat and add in 1 tablespoon of the olive oil. Once oil heats, add in the garlic and shallots and cook for 1 minute or until shallots soften. Add in the potato noodles, toss well and then pour over with the curry seasoning. Toss to combine thoroughly, making sure to coat all the noodles and then cover and cook for 10 minutes or until cooked through but al dente, uncovering occasionally to toss.
  3. Once cooked, uncover and add in the kale, the last half tablespoon of olive oil, season with salt and pepper and toss to combine or until kale wilts, about 3 minutes.
  4. Plate into a serving bowl and enjoy as a side!


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  1. Ali, I went to a bachelorette party this past weekend that included the bride’s dad’s girlfriend (to be fiancée after my friend’s wedding). At first I thought it would be a little weird but she turned out to be an essential and super fun part of the group. Like your mom, she got her own room but participated in all the activities with us (including a male strip club). I didn’t realize how close the two of them had become over the past few years. The girlfriend was essential in my friend’s wedding planning in ways her mother could never be (her mother was not invited but also made it clear she didn’t want to be :). You can’t and shouldn’t judge other people’s relationships because you simply don’t know the dynamics.

    Your mom sounds awesome and your bachelorette party and wedding were beautiful. I’m with you on internet comments – I have no idea why people post the negative things they do. I rarely read comments on any website because I don’t like to see the hatred and plain ignorance in many of them. I’d also like to point out this is my first EVER blog comment because of said aversion to comments.

    Keep being inspirational! :)

  2. Wow….just Wow…

    I just read the NYT article-which was interesting, fair, non-judgmental–merely reporting on a trend. But the comments…people are SO mean!!!

  3. Celebrate the wonderful fact that you’re so blessed to have your mother in your life, and that you’re so close to her! I’m 53 and have a 34 year old daughter. We celebrate so many things together!! I wouldn’t trade any of those experiences for doing what some people think is socially acceptable! Bless you for having your mom there! I think she’s a beautiful, sassy and wise Lady!!

  4. We live in a fallen world that likes to criticize others to make themselves feel better about their life and who they are. Look at the news…always reporting the negative part of whats going on in the world instead of the good that people are doing or the positive things people are doing in the world. People don’t want to hear the good they want to hear the bad so that they can say wow my life isn’t that bad, see I am not as bad as that person and so and so on. Yet, in their hearts they are so mean, gruel and judgmental. I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that those people who feel they need to make those nasty comments probably wish they had a relationship like you do with their Mom.

  5. I was taught by my mom, “If you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut.” Thank you mom! People are just unbelievable and incredibly opinionated.If they are against something, they feel they must comment without filters and don’t care if they hurt someone. They do it because it’s “out there” and they can’t see the results of their comments. I don’t think people would say half of what they do it they had to say it to someone’s face. If my mom & aunt were in town for my bachelorette party, they would have been invited and welcome, too.

  6. You did not have to comment about anything that someone has written about your wedding, mother, etc. We are free to do as we wish as long as it does not infringe on someone else’s freedom. You don’t have to explain your choices. It was your wedding which it was obvious that it was unique and absolutely beautiful as you put your heart and soul into it. Jealousy is destructive. Being judgmental is dishonorable. Not to wish others true happiness in a world that is full of hate only adds to the negative energy. They are small, closed-minded, and truly not walking a healthy productive path in life. Continue to inspire others to be healthy with your head held high and accept only love from those that send it your way and wish the nay-sayers well on their journey in life as it is very sad living like that.

  7. I think it is great that your mom, participated in your bachelorette party. I didn’t have one when I got married almost 22 years ago but I planned my sister’s 3 years before that. I invited our Mom and our Aunt. They were going to leave before the stripper got there, but they didn’t and it was pretty funny to see them interact with him, I think he singled them out and everyone had a great time. So great to see the both of them in a different setting then we were used to. Great memories!!!

  8. I would like to comment, if I may be so bold, on the terrible things people have said about your mom. I have not read them personally, only the ones you commented on today. Too much negativity for me!! But I would like to say something that I heard once that has changed the way I look at people in general. What other people think about me is none of my business!!! Our only business is to be joyful and if someone else tries to cast a shadow on that joyfulness, turn the other cheek; just look the other way. There is no such thing as a right or wrong way to go about anything, only personal preferences, and they are the business of no one but yourself. You are a beautiful, wonderful woman. When I see your face on the screen it always make me smile back at you. Very uplifting! Never change a thing. Always be true to the only person in your life who’s opinion matters…..yourself.

  9. If people feel better for making nasty comments, they must feel pretty rotten to begin with, because there’s no way they’d really feel better for making them. It sounds to me like you did everything right, and everyone who was part of your wedding was blessed. The photo with your mom that you included makes it clear that she is someone who is still ‘with it’ without trying to be someone she isn’t. If your mother was/is a ‘real housewife’, you wouldn’t be who you are, plain and simple. I guess there’s an art to letting nastiness like that slide off your back, but I sure haven’t learned it yet. You will go far if you just continue to be yourself.

  10. I live by the saying from “Bambi” (1942 movie) -Thumper’s advice from his father – “If you can’t say something nice… don’t say nothing at all.” People need to learn this!! Just ignore all the negativity!

  11. Hi Ali,
    Unfortunately, “Hater’s are gonna hate.” They are just “doing their job, cause that’s what they do.” Don’t pay any attention!!!
    I think it’s fantastic that your Mom wanted to be with you for your bachelorette party and even more awesome that all of your friends wanted her there! Shows how wonderful (and fun) your Mom must be, and what a great relationship you two have together. Cherish all of it!!!!

  12. Ali,
    I loved your most recent post where you reflected on the NYT article and the comments that followed. People just have very little “instruction” on how to behave in social media…if you think about it I didn’t have a lot of “instruction” on how to behave in social situations growing up (I’m 52) but what I did have was IMMEDIATE feedback which helped check those random foot to mouth or embarrassing events. This feedback was provided by close friends, family and neighbors who I knew were just a phone call away from my parents. I would be mortified to disappoint my parents! Today, we all interact more with a much larger community and feel we are anonymous but we aren’t and what is said can truly cause damage. I’m glad you’ve added your voice to the discussion on cyber bullying. Thank you. To all others…ask, “If someone called your Mom to report what they heard/saw, would you be proud of it?”

  13. I went to BOTH my daughters’ bachelorette parties and they wanted me there! We all had a great time and created beautiful memories together that I wouldn’t trade for the world. Kudos to you for being sensitive to your friends, and your Mom, and having a fabulous time together.

  14. (follow up) Well now I’ve read those comments you talked about and I too feel dissed…I didn’t see anything “inappropriate” about my going along to these fun events with my daughters and their friends, and am not going to change my mind because of other people’s opinions. How judgmental of people who should be minding their own lives!

  15. I think you are so lucky to have a very close relationship with your mother. Lucky mom, lucky daughter! If everyone were so lucky, there wouldn’t be negative comments:)

  16. What other people do of say is about them not you. Letting other people’s behaviour bother you is like letting them live rent-free in your head. Evict the non-, lying tenant immediately and get on with creating joy in your life. They’re not worth another minute of your time.

  17. Ali
    I just read your most recent post where you made reference to the comments about your mom attending your bachelorette party. You know you did what was right for you both, when you invited and she accepted your invitation. Feel proud, honoured and very lucky that you have that kind of relationship with your mom. Perhaps those people who made the comments are envious. I invited my Mom to my Stagette (Canadian version of Bachelorette party) and I’m proud to say she came and had a great time…great memories for me as she is now gone…cherish all those times with loved ones.

  18. What a blessing to have your mom share this pivotal time in your life. To me this speakes volumes has to the type of relationship the two of you have. God bless!

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  20. Ali it’s great that you took your Mum to share your special weekend. I live in the northeast of England and it is perfectly normal for you mum, aunties, even grandmas to accompany you on your “hen” weekend!! They usually end up being the most fun/entertaining in the party!

  21. Recipe looks fab! As for including your mom in your life….you are so blessed to have her and to have the relationship you do. I included my mom in everything (just lost her this past February…hardest day of my life). My mother didn’t raise me though. I reunited with her when I was 16 so our relationship may not have been typical. BUT I was most definitely a “mother” to my girls while they were growing up, but once they got married and moved out…. we became fast friends. I’m still “mom” but we all love each other’s company. Daily. I’m so blessed! And they’ll tell you so are they :)

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