Comments on: a day in the life with 2 under 2

By: Nikki

Nikki — Fri, 30 Aug 2019 12:22:54 +0000

I never comment but some comments were so harsh that I feel the need to balance it out. Ali, I love reading your posts and appreciate you even bothering to post while on mat leave. Everyone’s situation is different and I personally don’t care about “relatable” whatever that means (it’s highly subjective, you are relatable to me). My kids will be 2.5 years apart and I’m due quite soon so I love reading about how you are managing things, even though I live very very far from any family (think 24+hr plane trip) and my husband gets several months of leave from work to stay home with me. We all have different situations and it’s wonderful of you to share personal aspects of your life. I hope you aren’t upset by weirdo, negative internet commenters and realize that lots of people who don’t comment still love reading your posts. All the best from Australia.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 02:52:41 +0000

Every working mom I know kept their childcare for their first while on maternity leave! You do you and ignore the haters! You are doing an awesome job mama!!

By: Ali Maffucci

Ali Maffucci — Fri, 16 Aug 2019 17:55:46 +0000

In reply to Amanda. Thanks for the love !

By: Ali Maffucci

Ali Maffucci — Fri, 16 Aug 2019 17:55:35 +0000

In reply to Mary.

That’s why the Internet is a great place — you are free to follow (and not follow) whom you please! I’m not for everyone and there are plenty of people I have unfollowed on the Internet because they are un-relatable and not in my situation. Therefore, I don’t find them enjoyable to follow! I’m glad your friends did the same, who you follow should only bring you happiness and inspiration. However, don’t shame me for being on maternity leave and being a working mother, that is unfair. I have help because I couldn’t run this business without help, which I am very transparent about. I think anyone who follows me and reads this post is already aware of my situation? I’m not trying to hide anything, that was a surprising sentiment to hear here.

By: Ali Maffucci

Ali Maffucci — Fri, 16 Aug 2019 17:51:46 +0000

In reply to Melissa. Thank you for the kindness!!!

By: Caroline

Caroline — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 18:09:12 +0000

Ali! I appreciate you being transparent about your situation. I was curious how it was going, and as I think about having a second, love hearing how other people do it.
There’s a lot of anger (jealousy?) in the comments and I think the missing piece here might be acknowledging your privilege.
Parenting is really hard, no matter who you are or how you do it. Ali has worked to create a career and schedule that works well for her and her family and she also is fortunate/privileged to have a college education, supportive family and successful career. She has worked hard to get where she is and I don’t want to downplay that either.
Sure, there are parents in the suburbs who don’t have nannies and feel the physical/emotional toll of being a full time caregiver. There are city parents with nannies where both people work 60+ hour weeks and only see their kids on weekends. There are people who have some sort of blend of these (like Ali). There are folks in low income situations who have to put their kids in subpar childcare situations because it’s the only option they have. Ultimately Ali, myself, and I suspect the majority of people who read this blog have an incredible amount of privilege.
Instead of attacking her for hers, maybe we could acknowledge it and move on.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 15:36:34 +0000

I do not know Ali except from following Inspiralized. I raised two daughters who are now in their 30’s, while teaching full-time (including summers),with a workaholic spouse who was seldom home, and parents & in-laws who lived across the country. Hard as it was, I couldn’t have done it at all without a wonderful, grandmotherly daycare provider in our neighborhood. Had I been trying to work at home, as Ali does so successfully, it would have been very stressful to keep a balance between family needs and work requirements. Every working mother — and Ali is indeed a working mother, even though she works from home!!! — has to find a schedule and a support network that meets the needs of herself and her growing family. Remember the adage “it takes a village”! Please don’t berate Ali and Lu for having the financial and human resources to pull together a support system that enables her to run her successful enterprise from home, while maintaining enough sanity and energy to devote to the children. Her way may not be your way, but in this post, she is merely providing a snapshot of one parent’s way, and she will likely change and adapt it as Luca and Roma grow and their needs change. Because she is so transparent willing to share, it’s apparent to me that Ali’s children are deeply loved and are thriving. If her way doesn’t resonate with you, then don’t follow her! All of the haters here and on a particular influencer-hating website might consider devoting less time to snarking in anonymity and finding more constructive things to do with their family or community.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 03:37:13 +0000

Okay I kind of understand why some of you are upset because having young kids is hard as hell no matter what your situation. I don’t think Ali deserves this much hate though. She has a great situation with good help, but she doesn’t act like she’s doing it all by herself. She is a work from home mom so obviously she has some childcare available, and every working mom I know continues their previously childcare situation during maternity leave. She’s a positive person and if you can’t relate to anything else she puts out then it would probably be good to stop following her anyway. Ali, keep doing you!

By: Lex

Lex — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 01:28:14 +0000

I think you hit a soft spot here with a lot of moms, hence the comments above me. I know you say you try to keep it real and in some areas you do and what you share might be real to you but to most of your mom followers it’s not their reality therefore it triggers some negative feedback. I think what these comments are trying to say is that life with 2 kids, regardless of age, usually looks a lot more messy with lots of crying(from mom and kids) lots of snacks just to get 2 minutes to pee alone without one or both sitting at your feet waiting for you to finish to give them a snack, lots of juggling 2 kids needs 24/7 or after work or alone some days or stuck at home on weekends bc they live in suburbs etc. everyone’s journey is different but I will say that I feel for other moms and dads who look at this post and feel jealousy or feel kinda ragey because no one is there to help them If their significant other is traveling or working late. No one is there for regular date nights, most of those are few and far between. I don’t think anyone is trying to tear your down I think they are just frustrated with some of the ease of having multiple kids that you portray in your post.

By: Mary

Mary — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 00:46:23 +0000

Anonymous,I am so glad someone finally said something. Most of my mom friends have unfollowed because they were finding it hard to relate to someone who hasn’t dealt with any hard parenting issues like being alone with their kids ever and just in general figuring hard stuff out parenting multiple kids. It’s hard to watch someone talk about a day in the life of parenting 2 under 2 when there is no actual parenting going on. I know when I had 2 under 2 it was an actual shit show lol. Everyone has their own experiences and that’s totally fine but it is a little odd to see a parent who has never spent any alone time figuring shit out with screaming kids haha

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 23:42:27 +0000

Wowza…chalking your response up to having an incredibly horrible day, Ms. Anonymous. I highly recommend getting some fresh air! Many moms have help that comes in different ways…relatives, nannies, day care at their place of employment or perhaps none at all. It is why Ali says “take it with a grain of salt”. So,go find a salt shaker.

Moving onward and upward….thank you Ali, for sharing and enjoy your day!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 22:53:15 +0000

you are a joke ali, you don’t parent 2 kids at the same time, let’s get real. Get out of your bubble and wake up. You are not relatable at all to the average mom.when you are alone with both your kids for more than an hour at a time.. try a whole day, then rewrite this post.